ARE DAYAK A VICTIM OF A PAST EVENT?

• Are you a victim of circumstances?
• Are you a victim of ignorance?
• Are you a victim of political maneuvering?
• Are you a victim of economics capitalist?
• Are you a victim of selfishness?
• Are you a victim of expendable asset?
  

In my personal opinion:

Whatever it is.....Life has to move on forward. What does it take to move forward in life?

One of the key things needed to move forward is the ability to focus objectively. The mind must be clear about what it needs to focus on. There are times when it is critical to focus on what is taking place at that time.

Focus on your priority

My advice is to focus on what is most important or that appears to be the priority. If you do not focus on what is most important; you could be in real trouble in the near or not to distance future.

Focus on your ability

Another key point to moving forward in life is having the ability see success. If someone is unable to see success then they may never feel inspired to seek greater achievements in life.

There must be inside the heart something that enables one to see success. If we look at most people who have done well moving forward in life; we will see that they all had the ability to see success.

Focus outside your "Old-Box Mindset"

Moving forward in life, also involves the ability to unstick the mind. Sometimes life will deal us a blow that may cause us to become stuck or unmotivated and/or stagnant.

Instead of us standing our ground and lowering our shoulder, we feel like curling up and throwing in the towel. It is at these times that we must put on all our spiritual armor and prepare for battle.

One battle at a time!

One fight at a time! This is the kind of attitude we need to move forward in life.

Sometimes we need help, support, assistance, alliance, affiliation and network when moving forward in life; it is a natural and sometime necessary fact of life.

We are not alone on this planet. Let face it, we are all here to help each other, and the sooner we realize it, the better for everyone. We can move forward by helping each other pull on the support ropes of life.

Conclusion

As you move forward in life, occasionally look ahead to your next horizon. The next challenge you see will give you the drive to keep moving forward.

Looking forward will hone your ability to achieve success. Keep moving forward, it not end of the world!

ANANG BEGULAI ENGGAU ORANG NEGATIF

Nama kabuah kitai mesti nyauh ka diri ari orang nguan penemu negatif?

Most negative people will remain negative in their lives. Negative people can suck the life right out of you if you're not careful!

If you spend even just a tiny little moment with them, you will begin to feel negative too. Don't try to change a negative person; it will drain everything within you!

• Remember the last time you had a huge argument with your spouse, or someone else?
• Remember how the emotional turmoil took its toll on you?

The best way to deal with negative is to just simply avoid it at all costs!

Here are two vital tips to dealing with negative people....

1. Stay away

There have been so many times in my life when I had to break off some relationships because of the negativity associated with them.

Now, I'm not saying you should stop loving and caring for the negative people in your life, but just love and care for them from a distance. Just quit hanging out with them and doing things together.

If someone in your life is sucking energy out of you because of their negative attitude, it's time to find someone else to hang out with.

If it's your spouse unfortunately, you're gonna find it rather difficult to stay away.

In a case like that, some counseling will be required. It's a funny thing that when a third party tells your spouse something you've been trying to say for years, they seem to get it.

2. Get away

Some people think that listening to others' problems is a good character trait. It may be, if the person complaining is a good friend and not just someone who regularly unloads a bunch of garbage just because that's what they do best.

When you hear someone go on with a negative attitude, it's time to find the door! You need to get away from it because it's like a virus. Negativity spreads and tries to attach itself to anything it can get a hold of.

Sometimes you may not be able to get away from it, like if you're at a holiday family get-together. There will always be situations like that where you can't do much about it, except wait it out.

But, just being able to identify the negative will help you handle it a little better. Maybe you can try to be nice and keep to yourself as much as possible. Maybe even have a light-hearted discussion with yourself in your mind while the negative is spewing out.

Conclusion

Being positive and staying positive is absolutely critical to your success in life!

If you're going to win in your chosen field, you must avoid negative people and situations as much as you can.

Now, I'm not saying to be insensitive to people's problems. If you can help, then of course, help them.

Just learn to identify the times when people are just plain being negative. There is no helping those types of people because they don't want help.

Have a positive day ahead!

UJI NUAN EMPU?

Iban - Let it be you!

I think Ibans have to start from “Let It Be You” or “Lapa Enda Nuan?” or “Uji Berengkah Ari Diri Nuan Empu”

• To help yourself and/or your family members, someone has to initiate it. Who?
• To mobilize a community, someone has to lead it. Who?
• To develop a community, require collective effort. Who?
• To feed your stomach and/or your family, someone has to find the food. Who?
  

Other things:

• If all individuals and/or community(s) can work together, we can prosper together. Who?
• If Ibans keep on penalizing and/or criticizing or blaming or point-finger to one another, we are going nowhere. Who?
• If Ibans fail to propel and prosper, we will remain stagnant and backward. Who?
• If Ibans have got no budget and/or allocation, we all have to seek, find and create initiative, possibility and find the opportunity. Who?
• If Ibans fail to plan and ask for their own budget or projects allocation, we should not blame anyone because we can't expect others to look at our backside. Who?
  

Recalling; each and every day, there are people all around the country and the world who are living their dreams. Millionaires are made every day. Better start living your dreams rather than leaving it to fate away.

Families are experiencing tremendous relationships. People are becoming more (multiply), healthier, progressive and competitive. Life-long education/learners are growing intellectually and improving their chances for success.

The fact is that living the life of your dreams is possible. People prove that every day. Someone somewhere is going to get rich, get healthy and improve their life.

My recommendation is this: Let it be you!

Have you ever wanted to make money or for your betterment? Have you ever looked at someone who has an opportunity (business, investment, finance, technology or project) or money and wished that it could be you?

People think about getting wealthy or richer or uplift their living all of the time, when only a small percentage actually does. But any of the masses could.

So why not let it be You?

• Someone is going to start a business or consultancy services or real estates services or financial/tax/legal advisory or private tuition enterprise or others to generate income and/or alternative revenue or surplus.
• Someone is going to make a great investment (merger & acquisition, REITs, property and land, ASB, ASN, AHB, etc).
• Someone is going to begin the journey to great wealth.
• Someone is going to decide to improve their relationships and well being.
• Someone is going to enjoy love with their family.
• Someone is going to schedule some meaningful time with their friends.
• Someone is going to go back to school/college/Unis to improve their life.
• Someone is going to become a life-long education learner.
• Someone is going to set a goal to read a book or listen/watch motivational CDs each week for the next year.
• Someone is going to look in the mirror and see that they need to lose a little weight or reduce/stop smoking habit or stop consume alcohol and they will make the decision to become healthy.
• Someone will develop their first NCR land into "Rubber Estate Cooperative Scheme".
• Someone will join an association to volunteer themselves and help their own community and members of the association.
  

I think that by now you get the point: Everyday people are self-improving and/or self-betterment or self-determine their lives.

Whether you do or not doesn´t matter to those who do. They are going to do it, regardless. It is simply a matter of a decision being made. So let that person be you!

You may be asking, "Ok Unggal, but how?' Well, let´s cover the very simple actions.

1. Your personal commitment

The most important is to make a commitment to work on yourself only then you can help others. Are you going to improve or stay the same? Or poorer-poor and/or remain backward?

No matter what you have achieved, you are at a certain point right now. What you have achieved in the past is fine, but it doesn't make a difference for the future.

The decision about what you will become is made each day, every day, every week, every month and every year. Each day someone is making the decision to better him/herself. Let that person be you!

2. Make a plan

Once you have decided to become better you will have to have a plan. It doesn't have to be a long, intricate plan. It can be simple. Save a ringgit a day and you will save 7 ringgits a week.

If you want to do business (small or big), start saving your money for your start-up capital and have a proper business plan.

Walk a mile a day. Read an article a day. That is a simple plan with achievable goals. Someone is going to develop a plan that will take them into the future of their dreams. Let it be you!

3. Begin to act

All of the great ideas, without action, become stale and useless. The key to turning dreams into reality is Action! People who have great ideas are a dime a dozen.

People who act on their dreams, thoughts and ideas are the select few, but they are the ones who gain the wealth, wealth and wisdom that is available. Someone will act today. Let it be you!

Conclusion

My encouragement to fellow Ibans is to stop looking at others who live the good life, wishing that you were as well, and instead begin to commit to your improvement, develop a plan and act on it. Someone is going to. Let it be you!

To Your Success fellows!

Have a pleasant Sabbath Day.

ATAS PAGAR: Personal Growth and Development Plan 2012

How would you benefit from it?

In this day and age, when everyone seems to be fighting tooth and nail for everything, it is difficult enough to get what you want and need, let alone think about anyone else.

There is an old saying which states, ‘the moment we stop growing is the moment we start dying’. This is particularly true when we give up on ourselves!

There are also times when you feel like you are all alone battling with the trials that life has heaped on you.

At times you feel so depressed, so lonely, so upset, so miserable, so hopeless, so helpless and so poor, and you perceive that the world is crumbling right before your very eyes.

When your outlook in life is badly hurt and wounded, you will eventually be left miserable all throughout the days. This must not push you to the limits.

As the cliche often tells you, there is always a window opened whenever a door is closed.

As long as you take a positive view of life, you know for certain that you will be able to overcome all of life’s difficulties.

Personal Growth and Development Plan (PGDP) must then be your asylum.

If you feed your mind and your heart with nothing but the positive values, you are certain to achieve your goal and success in life.

But if you do the other way around, then you can expect yourself to drown into misery, living in backwardness, stagnant and become poorer-poor.

More so, PGDP is a system which allows you to experience any or all of the following:

1. An enhanced relationship with others

Live a free man and achieve your personal freedom.

If you feed your mind with proper and quality education, and you improve the level of your knowledge and personal intelligence, you therefore learn the proper way of keeping a good system of communications between the people who are within your environment and beyond.

If you have good communication strategies with others, the more enhanced your relationship with them would become.

And you would be able to enhance and expand your network (domestic, regional and global).

2. An improved health

A stable health is not only counted as one physical attribute. It must extend to your own state of mind.

Even the doctors or ‘manang’ of today know for certain that keeping a relaxed state of mind will eventually lead to a healthy physique.

You need to keep yourself healthy to stay alive to achieve your dream goals.

That is why there is what is known as the series of mind exercises. They may relax the mind and provide a healing power for one’s overall personality.

3. Be able to earn more money-income

Learn to understand money spinner. Build initiative to earn money and find option to generate alternative income.

Use yourself as a tool given by God to earn money and surplus for yourself, your family and for your next generations.

If you take into serious consideration the stability of your own future, you will soon realize that in a year’s time, your earnings will be more profitable and steady.

Find, identify and secure the opportunity out there and don’t wait for others to put it on your platter.

Others will never give the ‘food-of-opportunity’ to you on the platter because they’re hungry too and always needs to feed themselves and their family on a daily basis.

PGDPs are unlikely to take effect on you if you will not subject yourself into it. It helps to always maintain a positive thinking and attitude, so to speak.

4. Manage your time well

If you are always on a rush, you will end up distressed and/or bang onto the wall blindly. Having things kept in an orderly manner will really pay off.

Plan your days, weeks, months and years ahead, and always stay cool even when you encounter an impromptu situation. “Time is life” “Time is money” “Time is opportunity” “Time is aging”

Conclusion

You may not have a full control of the circumstances that may arrive in your life but you are in full control of yourself.

If you know how to integrate a PGDP in your overall well-being, you can obviously help yourself deal with almost anything that comes your way.

Don’t ever play with the “thoughts” and “perceptions” that your destiny has already been tailored and/or thinking others has already included you in their plan or program.

It is always you that need to plan and secure your own life first.

• If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.
• If you think others plan for you, you has no plan for your own.
• If you let others to budget and/or accommodate you, they will budget for themselves first and you ‘might’ gets the bone or none.
  

You are your own commander or captain and in-charged of your own destiny, mind you.

If you do some things out of your stupidity then you are likely to be the one who is going to suffer from your actions.

However, if you have nothing else in mind but the focus on your self-improvement, then it will soon materialize.

Lu pikir-pikir la sendiri....

WHAT WILL OTHER PEOPLE THINK OF YOU?

Honorable readers,

My own way of managing my wonderful mind, thoughts and deed, and this is how I look at it....

Don’t waste a moment of your precious life worrying about what other people will think of you. No good can come of it.

The truth is that you’ll waste far more energy imagining what others think of you than those people will ever invest in it themselves.

Most people are far too preoccupied with their own lives to devote considerable attention to what you’re doing.

While you’re worrying about what they think of you, they’re worrying about what you think of them.

Just worrying your lives away.....No one is any better than You to manage and take care of your own life and your loved ones.

If other people worrying about the Dayaks, just let them be.......because you are also a Dayak yourself (including your family, your relatives and your friends who either live in the city areas or in the rural areas) and they’re also worrying for you too!

Instead of being concerned with that others think, become concerned with what you think of yourself.

Your opinion of yourself matters far more important than the opinions of others, no matter how wise, intelligent, or well-meaning you think they are.

Realize that other people’s opinions of you are theirs alone and have very little to do with you. No one else really knows what you’re capable of….

When you allow others to have their reaction without taking ownership of it yourself, you empower yourself.

Don’t fear that you’ll turn into some kind of inconsiderate, anti-social jerk if you stop being concerned with what others think of you.

Even as you meet with resistance from others, you’ll be serving as a role-model in You to help them overcome their own fears.

EVERYONE IS ENTITLED TO THEIR OWN OPINION!

IBAN - IT IS WHOM WE WANT TO SPEND TIME.....

We are all influenced by who we associate with. The people we surround ourselves with have a powerful influence over you. Think about this for a minute.

• If we surround ourselves with politicians or talk politics every day and everywhere, we become part of them.
• If we surround ourselves with business community or talk business every day and everywhere, we become part of them.
• If we surround ourselves with progressive people or talk on progressiveness and/or productivity, we become part of them.
• If we surround ourselves with criminals or talk on “criminal activity” and/or “gangsterism” or becoming “Mafia” or “Yakuza” or "Ah Long" or "Taliban" or "terrorists", we become part of them.
• If we surround ourselves with negative people or talk on negativeness and/or one-sided, we become part of them.
• If we surround ourselves with positive people or talk on positive mindset and/or positivity, we become part of them.
• If we surround ourselves with poor people or talk on poverty every day, self-pity and/or victim mentality, we become part of them.
• If we surround ourselves with hypocrites or talk hypocrites every day, we become part of them.
• If we surround ourselves with fear or talk “creepy” and/or fearful, we become part of them
• If we surround ourselves with “clubbing group”, “ngepub elites, “pengindu", "indai blues", “pisau cukur”, "kaki nyabong", "kaki judi", “golfers” or talk and/or think like them, we become part of them.
• If we surround ourselves with religious community or talk about religious matters every day, we become part of them.
• If we surround ourselves with extremist, racist and/or obsessed community or talk extremism and racism, we become part of them.
• If we surround ourselves with self-interest party or talk of oneself or party interest, we become of part of it.
• If we surround ourselves with “DB” (whatever that mean) community or talk and/or think like them, we become part of them.
• If we surround ourselves with Iban “Kapapas Mentality” or “Enda Ulih Mentality” or talk like them, we become part of them.
• If we surround ourselves with DAP, SNAP, PKR, PCM, PAS community or think like PR, we become part of them.
• If we surround ourselves with PBB, PRS, SPDP, SUPP or think like BN, we become part of them.
• If we surround ourselves with opportunities or think like opportunist, we become part of them.
• If we surround ourselves with “Apai Saloi”, “Bunyau & Mujap”, “Kapapas & Ngelesey” or think and/or behave like them, we become part of them. And so it goes on.....
  

One of the most important choices anyone makes in life is whom they spend their time with. The people we surround ourselves with will end up having influence on every area of our lives.

How have the people in your life, especially the most influential of them, affected you? Your parents, siblings, friends, associates, Chiefs, leaders, bosses, co-workers, etc? They have all had an effect on you. They influence what you think and how you think.

If you associate with negative people you will be influenced by negative thinking. You cannot afford that.

If you hang around with people who see limits, in-a-box and the downside to things all the time it cannot help but limit your thinking.

We are by nature “Social Creatures” and we tend to think like our associates think. Maybe not all the time, but often we do.

Even if you can resist the negative thinking of others it is a lot of unnecessary effort and in the process you miss out on the positive and supportive influence of like minded and positive people.

We all struggle at times to remain positive, especially when things are going badly. You cannot afford to spend a lot of time with negative influence when you are struggling to achieve more and succeed.

SO HOW WOULD YOU OVERCOME THE BEST FOR YOURSELF?

DAYAK - EVERY ONE IS HYPOCRITE!

Those who judge others as “hypocrites” are hypocrite too. As human, we were never born perfect!

Do you think born as an Iban a perfect native species among their own and other native ethnics?

Often we condemn others for being hypocrites. But most if not majority of us are hypocrites.

This is because we do not understand ourselves and we do not understand whether others understand us not!

Actually it is impossible to “know” “ourselves” and also “other-selves”!

The “self” of every one of us is beyond intellectual definition and concrete and constant identity.

It is not even possible to understand our own and others’ perceptions, feelings, instincts and needs; because they are not too subtle and rapidly changing!

The hypocrite is the person who refuses to apply to himself/herself.

A person who call others hypocrite is hypocrite himself/herself.

Namely, the hypocrite is the person who applies to others standards that he/she refuses to apply to himself/herself and those who refuse to accept or understand other people opinions. Yet allowing others to see his/her true colors of reflection?

“Cakap lain – Buat lain” and worse “Cakap tak serupa bikin”…..

A courageous and confidence person will not be afraid of his own shadow nor will he/she afraid of “Atas Pagar” if he/she is very sure of his/her strength and self-belief. Same goes to “hypocrites”!

People aren’t always hypocrites because they sometimes violate standards they say they believe in.

If you correct past negative behaviors and, without shaming, encourage others to do the same, you are NOT being a hypocrite.

If you mess up occasionally but are consciously making efforts toward improvement and/or produce solutions, you are still NOT a hypocrite.

When you lie about, overlook or minimize your own actions or deny others, but attach all of your behaviors to someone else and not yourself, you are being a hypocrite. See if you’re in such category!

In other words, you might think people don’t change. I think the only people who believe that are the ones who haven’t yet.

JUDGE YOURSELF FIRST BEFORE JUDGING OTHERS