CHERITA BUNYAU ENGGAU MUJAP
Mujab: "Apoo...lapa nuan bejalai baka manok patah pah deh Bunyau...nyau kejinka...baju nyau cebek....?"
Bunyau: “Ehhh anang munyi nuan….laboh ari motosikal aku tu tadi…..maya ka besiyol nundi bala sida indu misi nganti bas ba Bus Stop tadi…”
Mujap: “Nuan tu alu enda nemu jera…Bunyau-Bunyau…suba udah ga nuan nya aksiden enggau kereta....nadai penungak meh nuan tu kaban ehh...”
Bunyau: “Nya meh alah laban mata baya ka lalu kanji tu madek…hehehe…alu nyau enda tepeda ka pengadang jalai....nasib endar enda nyadi superman terebai ka dalam lubang parit....akai daii....pedis amat tu...akai daii eh....indai-apai...”
Mujap: “Sigi asai meh punggal…nuan nya kira ka benasib amat tadi….enti enda ka udah tama ba lubang sebayan pendalam enam kaki…nadai meh nuan bisi peluang agi meda sida indu misi ngal....hehehe....enti ka alu tanya aja....hehehe....”
Bunyau: “Auk....badu meh nuan ngelesey ka tudah aku agi Mujap....akai daii…akai indai....akai apai....paloi endar motosikal aku.....”
Think about this; is ‘Bunyau’ an idiot?
Stupid is, as stupid does. So do your best not to be stupid or “paloi”.
I know it is not popular to label people as stupid. Tons of time with people who are so “thick head” they just keep on the same dumb track.
Why some Dayaks keep on doing the same mistake all over again?
All of us do stupid things at some point of time in our lives. And I am one of them too. We pay the price and learn from those ill-fated actions. No problem!
We lose our motivation to do things that don’t work or have a very low probability of ever working. We move on!
For many people, feeling that they are stupid is not common. For others, they feel like they’re constantly feeling plain dumb. Is your backwardness due to dumbness?
This means we need to LEARN and TEACH ourselves first on how to stop feeling stupid, possibly learn how to forgive ourselves, and possibly learn how to think before we open our mouth and/or do something.
Referring to ‘Bunyau & Mujap’ scenario above:
I believe feeling stupid is often the result of something that was said/done that didn’t make much sense. It’s often because we failed to analyze things (SWOT) and jump onto it blindly.
Or when a person wasn’t listening very well to what was being said, or they opened their mouth before they realized what the conversation was really about. “Paloi motosikal tu....”
This results in a feeling of being stupid, when it’s not really “paloi” or even ignorance, just reacting before thinking.
When we do stupid thing and/or decision, we probably doomed ourselves into unforeseen problems; underserved, underprivileged, underdeveloped, incompetence, etc.
If you’re one who often winds up feeling less intelligent than you should be, stop and think before you open your big mouth or do something drastic or sign something blindly.
Scenario: “You’re my trustee; I fully trust you….Trust yourself first before you surrender your full power of attorney (PA) to your trustee....you might lose everything....understand your clause as an exit point.....protect and safeguard yourself and your future always....”
Often, the conversation and/or understanding is deeper than you recognize it, and that’s why when you to jump into the conversation/understanding, and wind-up feeling stupid. In other words, think before you speak and think before you do.
If this happens to you a lot, make a promise to yourself not to open your big mouth or accept something blindly without thinking first!
And as you get better about not speaking or doing thing before thinking, your feelings of stupidity will lessen.
The other side of the conversation/understanding is those people who feel stupid no matter how smart they are.
First of all, no one in the world can know everything, most people have a general intelligence, but many people have a specialized intelligence in certain areas.
Some are “Jacks of all trades but master of none”. You’re born specialist in your own area. God gifted us with brain, skills and talents.
If you find that you’re feeling stupid, find your special area of intelligence and learn everything you can about it, and don’t worry too much about not knowing much about the rest of it.
Feeling stupid is not a natural emotion, if you find that you’re feeling stupid on a regular basis; try to learn how to think before you open your mouth or do something.
Finally, do realize that it's not the end of the world
Some times our stupidity gets the best of us and we lose jobs, homes, lands, powers, privileges, supporters and friends.
When that happened you have to realize that tomorrow will come and this is not the end.
Your final forgiveness comes from a place not seen by human eyes. You also have to forgive yourself and do your level best to finish well.
Many times that is the reason we hide from our stupidity. It is harder to forgive yourself than anyone else.
Once you say “sorry”, and if you genuinely are, and there is nothing more you can do you have to move on. Give it to God and start again.
NEXT TIME, THINK FIRST BEFORE YOU DO OR SAY!
Thank you.
Mujab: "Apoo...lapa nuan bejalai baka manok patah pah deh Bunyau...nyau kejinka...baju nyau cebek....?"
Bunyau: “Ehhh anang munyi nuan….laboh ari motosikal aku tu tadi…..maya ka besiyol nundi bala sida indu misi nganti bas ba Bus Stop tadi…”
Mujap: “Nuan tu alu enda nemu jera…Bunyau-Bunyau…suba udah ga nuan nya aksiden enggau kereta....nadai penungak meh nuan tu kaban ehh...”
Bunyau: “Nya meh alah laban mata baya ka lalu kanji tu madek…hehehe…alu nyau enda tepeda ka pengadang jalai....nasib endar enda nyadi superman terebai ka dalam lubang parit....akai daii....pedis amat tu...akai daii eh....indai-apai...”
Mujap: “Sigi asai meh punggal…nuan nya kira ka benasib amat tadi….enti enda ka udah tama ba lubang sebayan pendalam enam kaki…nadai meh nuan bisi peluang agi meda sida indu misi ngal....hehehe....enti ka alu tanya aja....hehehe....”
Bunyau: “Auk....badu meh nuan ngelesey ka tudah aku agi Mujap....akai daii…akai indai....akai apai....paloi endar motosikal aku.....”
Think about this; is ‘Bunyau’ an idiot?
Stupid is, as stupid does. So do your best not to be stupid or “paloi”.
I know it is not popular to label people as stupid. Tons of time with people who are so “thick head” they just keep on the same dumb track.
Why some Dayaks keep on doing the same mistake all over again?
All of us do stupid things at some point of time in our lives. And I am one of them too. We pay the price and learn from those ill-fated actions. No problem!
We lose our motivation to do things that don’t work or have a very low probability of ever working. We move on!
For many people, feeling that they are stupid is not common. For others, they feel like they’re constantly feeling plain dumb. Is your backwardness due to dumbness?
This means we need to LEARN and TEACH ourselves first on how to stop feeling stupid, possibly learn how to forgive ourselves, and possibly learn how to think before we open our mouth and/or do something.
Referring to ‘Bunyau & Mujap’ scenario above:
I believe feeling stupid is often the result of something that was said/done that didn’t make much sense. It’s often because we failed to analyze things (SWOT) and jump onto it blindly.
Or when a person wasn’t listening very well to what was being said, or they opened their mouth before they realized what the conversation was really about. “Paloi motosikal tu....”
This results in a feeling of being stupid, when it’s not really “paloi” or even ignorance, just reacting before thinking.
When we do stupid thing and/or decision, we probably doomed ourselves into unforeseen problems; underserved, underprivileged, underdeveloped, incompetence, etc.
If you’re one who often winds up feeling less intelligent than you should be, stop and think before you open your big mouth or do something drastic or sign something blindly.
Scenario: “You’re my trustee; I fully trust you….Trust yourself first before you surrender your full power of attorney (PA) to your trustee....you might lose everything....understand your clause as an exit point.....protect and safeguard yourself and your future always....”
Often, the conversation and/or understanding is deeper than you recognize it, and that’s why when you to jump into the conversation/understanding, and wind-up feeling stupid. In other words, think before you speak and think before you do.
If this happens to you a lot, make a promise to yourself not to open your big mouth or accept something blindly without thinking first!
And as you get better about not speaking or doing thing before thinking, your feelings of stupidity will lessen.
The other side of the conversation/understanding is those people who feel stupid no matter how smart they are.
First of all, no one in the world can know everything, most people have a general intelligence, but many people have a specialized intelligence in certain areas.
Some are “Jacks of all trades but master of none”. You’re born specialist in your own area. God gifted us with brain, skills and talents.
If you find that you’re feeling stupid, find your special area of intelligence and learn everything you can about it, and don’t worry too much about not knowing much about the rest of it.
Feeling stupid is not a natural emotion, if you find that you’re feeling stupid on a regular basis; try to learn how to think before you open your mouth or do something.
Finally, do realize that it's not the end of the world
Some times our stupidity gets the best of us and we lose jobs, homes, lands, powers, privileges, supporters and friends.
When that happened you have to realize that tomorrow will come and this is not the end.
Your final forgiveness comes from a place not seen by human eyes. You also have to forgive yourself and do your level best to finish well.
Many times that is the reason we hide from our stupidity. It is harder to forgive yourself than anyone else.
Once you say “sorry”, and if you genuinely are, and there is nothing more you can do you have to move on. Give it to God and start again.
NEXT TIME, THINK FIRST BEFORE YOU DO OR SAY!
Thank you.
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